How to build self-confidence like Real Steel
How to build self-confidence to be like real steel is understanding how we think.
Have you ever been at a party talking to someone, and in walks Mr. Joe Stud and everyone gravitates towards him, leaving you wonder what just happened. Or you had that high school sweet heart you always wanted to ask out, but never had the never and now you are wondering the rest of your life what if. Well my friend by the time you are done reading the article you will feel like a lot more confident in who you are.
Do you realize the longer wait to start building your self-esteem, the more difficult is becomes. If you have huge aspirations of making something big of your life, your low self-esteem is going to stop you every time.
Our lives are the direct results of what we think. So what does that look like? If you have been told you are a loser most of your life, you have become patterned to believe that thought and will do everything you can to avoid experiencing looking like one. So all your dreams and aspirations never gets pursued for two reasons. The first, you don’t believe you can achieve it, so you will not take the chance or self sabotage it. The second is touching one of our greatest needs, which is the feeling of significance. If we mess up, we will be a loser and everyone will call us a loser. And we fulfill our own prophecy with out knowing.
Does any of this sound familiar?
There are countless factors contributing to having low self-esteem, of which we are not going to spend any time on. It’s not what happens to us that determines our future, but how we respond to it. You are going to learn how to respond in an empowering way
Ready to start feeling like a rock star?
The first step in learning how to build self-confidence like reel steel is we have to take full responsibility for our lives. Why? Because we are the one who is going to spend the rest of our lives with forever. We have to stop playing the blame game. I know there are tragedies happening every day most people can’t comprehend. As long as we blame anyone for our misery, they are controlling us.
Taking full responsibility means getting rigorously honest with ourselves. Do an inventory of all your weaknesses and strengths. Then start looking at the weaknesses and asking why you have them. Most of the things people have been told are lies from someone who didn’t believe in him or herself.
So what do you do with inventory?
Great question. Now you are starting to understand who you are and why your behaviors have lead you down the wrong path, you will start to see people in an entirely different light. Now you have some insight and can start asking yourself, what is it you really want to do. If failure weren’t an option, what would you want to achieve in life.
The second step in developing self-confidence of reel steel is start developing the skill you desire to master. Start reading books, listening and watching everything you can and go to every seminar available. A great place to start is searching on the Internet. The old cliché garbage in, garbage out is very true with your thoughts. If you want your thoughts to become successful ones, then study what success looks like. Most people quit because they put unrealistic expectations on success, get frustrated and walk away saying, “See I told you so” Don’t be a victim with poverty mind set. Make today your declaration for a new life
The third and last step of mastering how to build self-confidence is understanding what fear really is. Fear is a self-protective mechanism God instilled in us to protect us when needed. Not as an excuse to let your dreams go south. And fear is all about you. It’s about what people are going to think of you. Well what’s more important, your dream or what others think of you? Get around people and environments that support big thinking. If you have a product, service, idea, business or a piece of art don’t let it be about you. True entrepreneurs are people who learn to serve the masses. Don’t deny any the opportunity to know you. It not only denies you of not knowing them, but it denies them knowing the only you on this entire planet
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Hi Jeff!
That is really an awesome advice. I really love reading your post.
Thanks for sharing this.
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Hi Jeff,
Since starting my Personal Development journey, my self confidence has increased dramatically.
The more you grow, the better your self confidence will be.
Great post.
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Hi Michael,
Thank you for your comment. You are absolutely right, the more we invest in ourselves to more value we have to offer.
Nice to meet and look forward to knowing you better
wishing you success,
Jeff
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I like the movie real steel, good source of inspiration on how to fight back and regain your trust in yourself. You’re article has spectacular points of view. You’re right,we need to face our fear and conquer them. We need to face consequences and be responsible enough to take the risks of our actions.In the end, keep going and keep still!
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HI Vhien,
Thank you for commenting. It is when we face and conquer our fears we discover who we are.
Its nice meeting you and look forward to seeing you again
Best wishes,
Jeff
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Thanks for your words. I’ll be around.

vhien recently posted..Hello world!
Great post on confidence, Jeff. Those tips are simple enough to master and the pay-off is excellent. Thanks for sharing.
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Hi Ana,
Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment.
I have learned a lot from you and I appreciate it
best wishes,
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Hey Jeff!
I really admire and appreciate your firm and well fabricated point of view,your experience of life is really profound.I think the foundation of self confidence is optimism.If we are positive thinkers then we can achieve what we want to.I want to share my childhood story of transformation with you,when i was a kid then one day my father shows me an ant crawling through the wall grabbing a piece of rice,which was 4 times bigger than its size,it crawl some distance and fall again,crawl again and fall again,then after some time it achieves its goal and my father told me that listen my son this tiny ant is a biggest teacher of practical life,it is an example.Always remember this and never ever give up in your life,always be optimistic and it will help you to build up your self-confidence.Thank you Jeff for sharing such a great,valuable,considerable and inspiring content with us.
Good Luck and God Bless!!
With Regards!
Samuel Joshua
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Hi Samuel,
Thank you so much for your comment. I love it!!
Its not the size of the dog in the fight, its the size of the fight in the dog.
I appreciate your father sharing those words of wisdom with you
God bless you my friend,
Jeff
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Great tips! Self confidence is the essence of what can make or break someone.
The only thing I’d add, and something that has worked great for me, is to simply tackle whatever it is that you’re scared of head on.
If you’re scared of doing presentations in front of large audiences, as I once was, force yourself to do as many as you can. It’s not easy but you’ll grow in confidence by leaps and bounds!
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Hi Sandip,
Thank you for your comment. I totally agree with what you added. I don’t remember who quoted this, but it goes do what you fear and death of that fear is certain
Nice meeting you and I look forward to
seeing you again
Best wishes,
Jeff
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Thanks for the helpful tips, I need to deliver a talk this saturday, need self-confidence to deliver a good one.
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Hi David,
Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment. Knowing you material is another way to have confidence.
I wish you the best on your speech
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Jeff
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Hi, Jeff! Love this post
Ref fear, this reminds me a quote from Goethe – Fear is the interest paid for a debt you haven’t actually got….Tomek
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Hi Tomek,
Thanks for your comment
I love the quote. Because fear is costly
Thanks for stopping by
best wishes,
Jeff
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Hi, Jeff!
I agree that true entrepreneurs are persons who know how to serve to masses. That is why it is important to have self confidence. Being honest about ourselves, developing our skills to their fullest potential and getting in touch with our fears is a great way to build our self esteem. I would add that also visualizing our success and goals are of importance if we want to be confident. Once we visualize something, chances are that after we take action, the goal we visualized will eventually come true.
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Hi Kristina,
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I totally agree with visualizing your success is a very important aspect of achieving what you desire.
Thanks again for stopping by,
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Hi Jeff,
Great post with a awesome visual analogy.
Thank, and all the best.
Eric
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I totally agree that self-confidence begins by taking responsibility for our lives, and dropping the victim mentality which is so pervasive in western society. Interesting article, thanks!
Cheers,
Graham
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Hi Graham,
Thank you for your comment
Unfortunately you are right how the victim mentality is wrecking this country
Wishing you success,
Jeff
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I love that you used real steal to talk about self-confidence. We have to hold our selves accountable for the way we feel and see our selves.
Was that movie good? I am think about seeing it.
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Hi Tisha,
Thank you for your comment. Being held accountable is one of the most effective ways to grow. Otherwise we don’t see our blindspots.
The Movie Rocked!!!
wishing you all the success,
Jeff
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If you want to overcome your fear, you need to learn to ignore the Lizard Brain.
The Lizard Brain is that “physical part of your brain, the pre-historic lump near the brain stem that is responsible for fear and rage and reproductive drive. Why did the chicken cross the road? Because her lizard brain told her to.”
If you can learn to ignore that part of your brain then anything is possible.
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Hi Joe,
Thank you for your comment
Interesting affirmation
Never heard of a lizard brain
wishing you all the success,
Jeff
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Hi Jeff, thanks for the tips. As we learn more skills, our weakness subdues and we will gain more confidence.
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Hi Viviana,
Thank you for your comment.
You are absolutely right. It takes 10,000 hours to master something
People need to understand the process of success
wishing you all the success,
Jeff
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Hi Jeff,
This is a great post, you bring up a lot of great points! The one that stands out the most to me is that of fear. We really need to learn from our fears and not hide from them in order to create the success that we truly desire!
Thanks,
Stacy
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Hi Stacy,
Thank you for your comment.
Like it has been said, courage isn’t the removal of fear, it is the ability to go through it
wishing you success,
Jeff
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Hi Jeff. How true. Self confidence is a huge asset. I know that even I have been through times of life where I have felt low on self esteem and it really has a way of interfering with absolutely every aspect of your life.
I’ve never failed to notice however when I am feeling ‘up’ how everything just seems to fall into place. I seem to attract more clients, more visitors to my blog… heavens even my ranking improves…. LOL without any extra effort!!
Self confidence really is something we should all work on. Even though it starts on the inside … it glows on the outside!
Thanks for the great read!
Jayne
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Hi Jayne,
Thank you for your comment. I appreciate your words.
I tell my coaching clients, every break through is proceeded by being broken. When the pain of change is less then the pain of your current existence is when magic happens
wishing you success,
Jeff
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Hey Jeff,
Developing self confidence is the real key to success and studying what successful people do and imitating it can really help. Really inspiring post, thanks for sharing.
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Hi Melony,
Thank you for your comment.
Studying successful people is crucial to grow.
You will have to read my post about Steve Jobs
Wishing you success,
Jeff
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Hi Jeff,
I love your points. It really makes sense.
Self esteem is related to what do you think about yourself, what is your worth and how far can you go in life.
My favorite line is: if you know what you’re worth then go get what you’re worth.
As you noted, this involves total responsability.
No complaning or playing the victim. Any problem is more easy to solve when you are responsible.
What really build self confidence is your decision followed by action..yes, despite your fear. At that point you realize at an emotional level that fear is an ilusion.
Thanks for sharing your ideas:)
Best,
Radu
Hi Radu,
Thank you for your comment. I like your favorite line!!
We have to become bigger then our problems. If we are not part of the solution, we are part of the problem
I appreciate your insights
wishing you success,
Jeff
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Hello Jeff! These are great points… Self-esteem for me is the way I look and carry myself. The way I speak can boost my self esteem…
Hi Marquitta,
Thank you for your comment
How you conduct yourself has a lot to do with self confidence, but I think it is the inner confidence that is revealed on the outsite
Wishing you success,
Jeff
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Hey Jeff,
Very nice article. One of the things which really built my self confidence was realizing that almost everything I was worried about, wasn’t as bad as I thought…afterwards.
Looking back, it was pointless being worried or unhappy about it.
Thanks for a great article Jeff.
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Hi Alan,
Thank you for your comment.
I don’t remember who said it, but most of the things we worry about never happen
If we look at every opportunity as a change to learn and grow, we are more likely to engage in life
Best wishes,
Jeff
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Solid points Jeff. Once a person learns to recognize when the ego is leading, the greater the capability of learning when and how to release their limiting beliefs.
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Hi A. Leigh,
Thank you for leaving your comments.
I agree!!! When the student is ready the teacher will appear
I appreciate you stopping by
Wishing you success,
Jeff
I have been able to build my confidence by learning from the experts. Reading books, listening to audios and going to relevant seminars.
I do believe that if we increase our knowledge in our field we are more confident to go out there in a big way and share our message.
Thanks a lot for sharing these point.
Hi Joyce,
Thank you for your comments.
I agree with you 100%
Its like we were told in elementary school
“garbage in, garbage out”
Thanks for stopping by, I appreciate your input
wishing you success,
Jeff
Great summary, knowing is only part of it though. Self confidence can be a real dominating force. You can know the fear is irrational but you still feel it and it controls you. It can be really tough to break through. I know people say that you need to face your fears and improve on your weaknesses etc but I sometimes wonder whether it’s best to stay away from things you are no good at so you don’t dent your confidence further.
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HI,
Thank you for your comment.
I agree knowing is only part of it. I also agree with not focusing on your weaknesses.
However, you need to know what those are. If you want to be a marketer and are afraid of promoting yourself, there’s a problem.
Part of building confidence is taking the knowledge and applying it. The longer we do something the better we become at it.
But we decide how much power to give a fear. I understand fear is a great thing, because it can save our life, but it can also immobilize us
thanks for stopping by and giving your input,
Jeff
Self confidence is the best way to get through the world. At first I was really a guy with no self confidence, but then I realize that it really affects life.
Greg
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Hi Greg,
Thank you for your comments.
Great to hear you are walking in confidence
It does make life a lot better
wishing you success,
Jeff
Hi Jeff,
Thoughts are things. We have to control our thoughts because we will definitely go in the direction of our dominate thoughts. We’ve got to protect our thought life and watch what we say when we talk to ourselves.
My favorite line in this post is the one that talks about taking full responsibility for our lives. If we start pointing fingers and blaming others for where we are, then we lose our power. We become weak. The secret to the most successful people in business is that they take 100% responsibility for their actions.
Thanks for sharing. I’ve learned a lot!
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Hi Etieno,
Thank you for stopping by and leaving your thoughts.
I totally agree we have to protect and value our thoughts more then anything, because they do control our lives.
I also like your statement we lose control when we blame others. Its like I tell my clients, we allow other to manipulate us. That is real rather people chose to believe it or not
I appreciate your input
wishing you success,
Jeff
Great tips Jeff! Self-confidence and self-esteem is what anyone should do to achieve what they want in life. This is what powers an individual to do great things.
Hi Tony,
Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment
Best wishes,
Jeff
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Jeff, I came to your site to learn more about marketing, which I did. I would have left my link for the site I’m learning about marketing for but this post is too closely related to another blog I just started.
Right on and thanks.
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Once I lost it when things seems wrong with work and lost it. I tried to regain it when my best friend told me to be productive. I read books, browse on the internet, painstakingly tutored myself to know about editing, article making and after 4 months land a job and got a salary more than I earned when I was still working 9to5
HI Raishas,
Thank you for leaving your enlightening comments.
It is always great to hear someone’s testimony of overcoming what ever held them back
Great job!
Best wishes,
Jeff
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Thank you for your sharing and it is a inspiring post. Our lives depends on how we think. If we have enough confidence, we should have enough courage to finish what we want. But I have to say the failure is the cause of no-confidence, and success is just the cause of confidence.
Hi Sophia,
Thank you for your comment. But I have to disagree failure is the cause of no-confidence.
Not that it doesn’t effect us, but it’s not the cause.
It is how we react to failure that determines whether we will have confidence or not
It is in our toughest moments we find out what we are made of.
Best wishes,
Jeff
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Hey Jeff,
Very nice content.
In my opinion fear is nothing but a negative noise of the mind; just a useless thought. It does not exist out there but we (if we choose it) manifest it by giving it attention.
thanks for the share
Akos
Hi Akos,
Thank you for your comment. I agree with what your saying, but fear can also protect us when needed.
It is how we deal with it that determines who we are and become
Best wishes,
Jeff
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The three steps are true. You’ll have to first take responsibility of your actions then realize what you really want. Being able to accept and master yourself as a whole is the key in building your confidence and self-esteem.
I really enjoyed the article and this really helped to me to improve the confidence.
thanks Jeff
Preet
I didn’t see the movie, but I plan to see it soon.
Self confidence is something very vague. What is real confidence? exists a breaking point for any of us, and the lucky ones never have to face it in all their lives. But the unlucky…
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