Ever have someone pass away and you didn’t get to say the things you wanted to say before they left this world? Or have someone say “You take life to serious; you need to lighten up and live a little.” Or heard one of your buddies say, “Ah heck you can to that tomorrow, lets go and watch the game” and tomorrow never comes and your idea or dream just drifts away?
Trust me my friend I have too…
It’s when we look inside we begin to see we are all not that different in a very unique way. One of our deepest desires is to be accepted by our peers. But we never look at how our environment is affecting us. I am sure you have heard the quote, “Either learn to control self, or you will be controlled by self.” It is so true, but unfortunately most are not even aware they have a choice to change their lives’
Will take a journey with me?…
But before we go down this path, I need to let you know today is my 45th birthday. The reason I share that is because every year when I have another birthday I reflect on my life, and ask the question “Am I becoming more of the person I want to be?” Because today when I asked myself that question, I didn’t expect the answer I got, but we won’t get into that just yet, let’s start our journey
Remember there is always more to the story then meets the eye..
I was raised in a small family, just my parents, my sister and me. Now I don’t need to get into all the details of what it was like, but let’s says it was very challenging for all of us. I will share my parents divorced when I was 7 and this had a much larger impact on me then I ever realized up until a few years ago. Now don’t misunderstand me, I know my parents did the best they could with what they had, but it was what they didn’t have that had the biggest impact on me. See as children it is normal for us to defend our parents, as we should. They are our clan. But in order to change your life, you have to change the questions you ask yourself. I started to look at how this impacted me. Not from a bitterness or resentful point of view, but from a belief perspective.
Hansel and Gretel had the right idea….
They left bread grumps so they would have clues to know the way home. Well life is the same… it leaves all the clues we need to become whom ever we want. See, when you start looking for clues, your perception about everything can change. Like it has been said, if you ask yourself the easy questions, you will have a hard life, but if you ask yourself the hard questions, you will have a better quality life. Now I don’t know about you, but I got tired of life beating me up.
Being thrown around like a sock in a drier gave my new glasses….
All I remember was it June 15 1985 and another day off, sunny and partying like there was no tomorrow and then waking up at 3:00 am the next morning with my entire family looking over me asking me if I knew what happened. Little did I realize this was the moment my life would change forever.
We can change our lives the moment we decide to..
I was hit right between the eyes with the consequences of my irresponsible way of living. The reality at that moment was about 6 hours before I just ran my sister’s boy friend, Randy’s car down in a ditch and hit a cross street at 85 mph. We flew 85 feet, flipped end over end and rolled before the car stopped. My sister was lying in a hospital across the street fighting for her life, with a fractured jaw and severe brain damage. For myself I had a broken neck and fractured femur. Thankfully Randy only received scraps and bruises. And as I look back on the day, I realize it was my belief system that put my sister and me in that position. I thank God for that day
So what are the consequences of your beliefs?…
I know that is pretty dramatic example, but I want to be clear on how powerful beliefs really are. See I was a full blown drunk at the age of 13. Because I believed God had turned His back on me and that I was worthless. So I had no desire to live beyond the age of 25. Here I am 20 years later with a completely different understanding of how powerful beliefs are. Beliefs are our operating systems. Everything we do is expressed from them. So on my quest of discovering a new way of life, I asked why you believe what you believe.
Belief is the foundation of which impossibilities are built on…
See 75% of what we will ever know is by the age of 5. The problem with this is we don’t have the cognitive ability to distinguish what is reality or our perception. So we form beliefs based on authority figures, the intensity and repetition. Then we spend the rest of our lives playing out beliefs most of us don’t even remember where or how they were formed.
So how are your beliefs working for you?
Sorry, that isn’t a Dr. Phil quote. When I began to understand, just because I believe a certain way, doesn’t mean it’s the truth. This is why Socrates said “An unexamined life isn’t worth living” and because he constantly asked “Why” he became one of the greatest thinkers in history. And because it is my birthday I am going to go to celebrate another year of life with my friends. But, before I go I want to ask yourself, why do you believe what you believe to be true and are you getting the results you want out of life?
Before I blow out the candles for my birthday, I ask you for just one wish….
To leave a comment and share this article with your friends. Because we never know how we can impact others..
P.S. oh yeah, and live, like your life depends on it. Because it does